Tuesday, August 30, 2011

How do you change who you are?

I am a very emotional person and I will totally admit that.  I jump to conclusions faster than anything.  I get sick with worry and always think the worst.  I can't help it, I freaking HATE it but it just happens.  Well it is causing issues in my relationship.  Jordan and I have only been together for 2 months so I am worried that if I don't stop worrying so much that he will leave me.  We have little fights because of me....because I over think things and make assumptions.

I need to change how I am.  I just don't know how to do it.  I am going to work as hard as I can to change.  I am gonna need help though and I don't know who to ask.  I mean honestly can anyone even help me to do that?  It is easy to say "Well Dani just don't worry or over think..." but if it were that easy then we would not even have this problem. 

I am gonna make goals for myself and work on meeting them everyday.

1. Don't freak out over every little thing.
2. Remember that Jordan is not my ex, he is not cheating on me.
3. Stop reading in to every little thing.
4. Remember that Jordan is NOT my ex.
5. Remember that Jordan is brutally honest and is not going to lie to me.
6. Remember he is NOT MY EX!!!!

I have got to totally change my way of thinking.  I will make myself into the woman that he wants/needs me to be. 


Rollin' With The Robilottos said...

The only person who can change you is YOU and with the love and guidance of your friends and family, along with a little perseverance, it's possible. Have you been to any counseling before? My thoughts are this...I believe you must be able to love yourself before you can love someone else (boyfriend) and you must have confidence in yourself before you can have confidence in someone else. Being in a relationship before either of those things are accomplished, only adds un-needed stress to your life. I have had my share of mistakes (cheaters), but I learned that every person is different and deserves the benefit of the doubt. Every obstacle that is put in your path is a challenge and you have 2 options to deal: 1. dwell and accomplish nothing or 2. put your big girl panties on and persevere. Good Lord, if only I knew then, what I know now (by being stubborn and learning the hard way), my life would be SOOO different! You are a smart woman, you know what you need to do, it's just a matter of doing it, right? Write your goals down and to remind yourself, post them various areas! Good luck :) P.S. I have no idea if any of this makes sense or is helpful, but I've got plenty more where that came from, if you need it! lol.

Anonymous said...

Dani!! Youre good people - you know this! You just to learn to accept the fact that The Cowboys are truley the only real football team in Texas! Once you accept that, you will be able to embrace numerous Super Bowl trophies ... and everything else will fall into place!

;-) Just trying to add a little humor!!

Mandy said...

hey! it's skirts from swap-bot.

i know exactly how you feel. i'm a worst-case scenario type of person and new relationships always cause me anxiety when they should be bringing joy. i hope everything works out wonderfully for you!!

Britty Luna said...

Hello! This is RyuLuna from Swap-Bot.

Omg, this sounds like me! I know how you feel, and there you are coming from. And it's hard. And remember, everything gets better with time!